Confrontation dos and don'ts 😇
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Theme: Confrontation
Confrontation can be a tough thing for us. We all have situations where we are faced with unfairness, verbal attacks, or unfairness. We may have a history of being abused or controlled which can make this extra difficult. Despite our fears, there are time we need to confront someone to get so@ething we need. Here are some “Dos” and “Don’ts”.
1. Don’t wait until you’re quite angry about the situation. 🤬 A shouting match, personal attacks, or things you’ll regret saying later could easily result. Don’t do anything if you’re tired, hungry, or sick. 🤒 You need all of your strength and energy to help you handle the situation with grace. Handle it another time.
2. Do keep your eyes on the prize! You NEED that frustrating, ignorant, rude, or uncooperative person. You’ve got to get them to participate in the solution. You need them to give you that refund, stop interfering in your life, or do you a favor. Antagonizing them will interfere with your goal.
3. Do keep your dignity intact. We’ve all seen billions of videos of “Karens” looking like absolute fools. 🤡 That is definitely not the image any of us want. Can you imagine what it would be like to open YouTube and see your own face staring up at you? Especially one with 234K views!
4. Do use “I” statements. Saying “You did this.” or “You caused that.” will put them on the defensive. They will close down and withdraw or arm for battle. ⚔️ Instead try things like, I need, I want, I feel…
5. Don’t interpret “confront” as attack. It simply means to face a problem head on.
6. LISTEN! Try to see things from their side. You might not want to, but if you don’t you’ll miss out on clues to a solution and ways to defuse the situation if it begins to get messy.
7. Do remember your inner child. 🧒👦🏽 Mind your manners. Be nice. Play fair. Don’t call names. You know the drill. The things you were taught as a kid.
8. Do rehearse for the meeting. Preparation always helps. 🎭
9. Do smile, use a pleasant voice, and display an agreeable attitude. It doesn’t mean they aren’t still a miserable excuse of a human being. It means you aren’t! 😇
10. Don’t shoot first and ask questions later. Make absolutely sure you understand what they are saying before jumping to any conclusions. Clear communication isn’t just important. It is absolutely vital!
11. Do keep your voice low. They won’t be so inclined to yell. They won’t be able to hear what you’re saying and it will drive them crazy. 🤪
12. Do ignore insults. TOTALLY. They are meaningless. Keep your sites focused on what you need. They’re trying to derail you.
You have a right to be heard. You need to be heard. If you keep your head about you, you can turn bad situations around. Maybe you won’t get what you want, but you’ll learn what to do next time and you’ll become more comfortable caring for your own needs.
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What tips can you share? I usually share true-life examples from my own life. This time it’s your turn. Share your wisdom.
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“You cannot sit in your room reading until the end of time. The world is scary and full of challenges. It's full of unkindness, and unfairness, and you just have to deal with it.”
― Juno Dawson, Stay Another Day
“Confrontation, when handled constructively, can lead to increased self-awareness, improved relationships, and personal development. Confrontation is not synonymous with aggression; it is an assertive means of addressing conflicts and finding mutually beneficial solutions”
― Dr. Lucas D. Shallua
“Confrontation is not bad. Goodness is supposed to confront evil.”
― Fred Shuttlesworth
“Confrontation affords you the opportunity to hear the other side of the story.”
― Sunday Adelaja
“There were things he'd been scared to face his whole life, and now that he was looking them in the eye they weren't quite as scary as he first thought.”
― Lev Grossman, The Magician's Land
“Remember, confrontation is about reconciliation and awareness, not judgement or anger.”
― Dale Partridge
#GreggersSupportingGreggers #HappyPlants #PlantsMakePeopleHappy #PlantAddict #GregGang #PlantTherapy
Theme: Confrontation
Confrontation can be a tough thing for us. We all have situations where we are faced with unfairness, verbal attacks, or unfairness. We may have a history of being abused or controlled which can make this extra difficult. Despite our fears, there are time we need to confront someone to get so@ething we need. Here are some “Dos” and “Don’ts”.
1. Don’t wait until you’re quite angry about the situation. 🤬 A shouting match, personal attacks, or things you’ll regret saying later could easily result. Don’t do anything if you’re tired, hungry, or sick. 🤒 You need all of your strength and energy to help you handle the situation with grace. Handle it another time.
2. Do keep your eyes on the prize! You NEED that frustrating, ignorant, rude, or uncooperative person. You’ve got to get them to participate in the solution. You need them to give you that refund, stop interfering in your life, or do you a favor. Antagonizing them will interfere with your goal.
3. Do keep your dignity intact. We’ve all seen billions of videos of “Karens” looking like absolute fools. 🤡 That is definitely not the image any of us want. Can you imagine what it would be like to open YouTube and see your own face staring up at you? Especially one with 234K views!
4. Do use “I” statements. Saying “You did this.” or “You caused that.” will put them on the defensive. They will close down and withdraw or arm for battle. ⚔️ Instead try things like, I need, I want, I feel…
5. Don’t interpret “confront” as attack. It simply means to face a problem head on.
6. LISTEN! Try to see things from their side. You might not want to, but if you don’t you’ll miss out on clues to a solution and ways to defuse the situation if it begins to get messy.
7. Do remember your inner child. 🧒👦🏽 Mind your manners. Be nice. Play fair. Don’t call names. You know the drill. The things you were taught as a kid.
8. Do rehearse for the meeting. Preparation always helps. 🎭
9. Do smile, use a pleasant voice, and display an agreeable attitude. It doesn’t mean they aren’t still a miserable excuse of a human being. It means you aren’t! 😇
10. Don’t shoot first and ask questions later. Make absolutely sure you understand what they are saying before jumping to any conclusions. Clear communication isn’t just important. It is absolutely vital!
11. Do keep your voice low. They won’t be so inclined to yell. They won’t be able to hear what you’re saying and it will drive them crazy. 🤪
12. Do ignore insults. TOTALLY. They are meaningless. Keep your sites focused on what you need. They’re trying to derail you.
You have a right to be heard. You need to be heard. If you keep your head about you, you can turn bad situations around. Maybe you won’t get what you want, but you’ll learn what to do next time and you’ll become more comfortable caring for your own needs.
——————————
What tips can you share? I usually share true-life examples from my own life. This time it’s your turn. Share your wisdom.
——————————
“You cannot sit in your room reading until the end of time. The world is scary and full of challenges. It's full of unkindness, and unfairness, and you just have to deal with it.”
― Juno Dawson, Stay Another Day
“Confrontation, when handled constructively, can lead to increased self-awareness, improved relationships, and personal development. Confrontation is not synonymous with aggression; it is an assertive means of addressing conflicts and finding mutually beneficial solutions”
― Dr. Lucas D. Shallua
“Confrontation is not bad. Goodness is supposed to confront evil.”
― Fred Shuttlesworth
“Confrontation affords you the opportunity to hear the other side of the story.”
― Sunday Adelaja
“There were things he'd been scared to face his whole life, and now that he was looking them in the eye they weren't quite as scary as he first thought.”
― Lev Grossman, The Magician's Land
“Remember, confrontation is about reconciliation and awareness, not judgement or anger.”
― Dale Partridge
#GreggersSupportingGreggers #HappyPlants #PlantsMakePeopleHappy #PlantAddict #GregGang #PlantTherapy
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